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Post by eyesofmist on Apr 16, 2015 21:37:29 GMT
The problem is that show watchers don't care about Sansa because she is like a ghost in the show, there's no characterization at all for her, so if she disappeared and never came back most people wouldn't even notice the difference.She's interesting in the books, with her qualities and her flaws, but in the show she's a cardboard flat character and really annoying more often than not. Her best lines have disappeared and her view on the intrigues and what was going on in KL can't be seen, so she's rather pointless as a TV character,the way they make her appear in the show.
If people cared about her they would be aghast to see her in Ramsay's power but do they care? You have to make watchers root for a character but these D&D haven't done so.
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Post by katie on Apr 16, 2015 21:44:04 GMT
It's interesting because I looked through the tags on all the reblogs of the original post I quoted in this thread, and ALL of them were completely freaking out, saying stuff like, "no, not Sansa!" "please don't let it be Sansa" "if this happens to sansa I will cut D&D's dicks off", etc. I honestly wonder how many of those were book-readers as opposed to show only-watchers. It was hard to tell. Some made direct references to the books but some did not. So, I do wonder how show-watchers are going to react to this versus how the book-readers will. And I wonder if all the people who said they will never watch the show again will actually make good on those threats.
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Post by eyesofmist on Apr 16, 2015 23:17:55 GMT
We are in the SanSan fandom,so we all like Sansa to some extent.But if you visit Westeros.org and other boards you'll find a lot of Sansa hate. Others just feel indiference. There are also people who love Sansa but all the Sansa fans I've come across are book readers. I guess there must be show watchers who like her but I don't know any myself.
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Post by katie on Apr 16, 2015 23:48:11 GMT
Hmm, interesting point. I don't interact with many show-only watchers, but I do know that Sansa hate exists... but then again Sansa hate exists amongst many book-readers too, LOL. When I first watched the show, I was pretty indifferent toward Sansa myself (I actually thought she was a bitch) until her interactions with Sandor. Once that ended, I really didn't care what happened to her until she ended up with Littlefinger, because at least that was semi-interesting. That seems to be what many show-watchers feel right now too -- "Sansa is finally interesting!!" I wonder if they'll still think that when she's being tortured and violated by Ramsay Bolton....
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Post by eyesofmist on Apr 17, 2015 6:49:26 GMT
If they marry Sansa to Ramsay then Harry the Heir or Aegon will never marry her. They can't become important in the books either, or can they?
Is her character irrelevant in the long run? I guess she will never become the queen in the north as many fans wanted and expected then. Perhaps she will be a sort of puppet passed on from man to man, which is absolutey disgusting but this is exactly what she has been so far. Not even Rob or Ned treated her the right way, as Ned married her off and killed her direwolf knowing both things were wrong and Rob didn't trade Jaime for her and later disinherited her when it was partly his fault she was married to a Lannister .
I've read some horrible comments added to your post about Sansa and Sandor on Tumblr but they are absolutely wrong and some also rude, by the way, they are wrong because the only man who has ever treated her right in this series is Sandor. He seemed dangerous and harsh, even mean sometimes but actual actions are what really count whereas words are taken by the wind. As regards actions Sandor was protective, respectful and caring towards her, and not " ungentle".
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Post by katie on Apr 17, 2015 17:35:33 GMT
I don't think she's irrelevant to ASOIAF, or even that she's irrelevant to GoT really; I just don't think D&D care about her as much as GRRM.
And I don't think Harry or Aegon are irrelevant either; they all serve a purpose in the books, but that doesn't guarantee that D&D will include them. Exhibit A: Lady Stoneheart. Exhibit B: Arianne Martell.
Haters gonna hate. The negative comments don't bother me in and of themselves but they bother me that people can have such a WILDLY different view of the exact same material, because it makes me question my own reading comprehension. I can understand people's discomfort with how Sandor speaks to Sansa, but there's just soooo much more to it than that, and I think it's just way too much over-simplification to chock him up to another one of Sansa's "abusers". I think maybe some people project their own personal experiences onto the characters sometimes, and maybe Sandor and Sansa's relationship is a "trigger" for some people; I think I mentioned before that, apparently, some people actually left the fandom when the show cast RMC as Sandor because they had been sexually abused by an older man as a child or something, and I'm just like.... Yes, that's horrible, but how can you project that onto Sandor and Sansa? That's not their dynamic AT ALL!!! So, perhaps much of it has to do with people's own personal predilections and not so much what GRRM himself intended with the text. Because if you look at the text objectively, there is no abuse there. There is a severely broken man who cares for a girl and has no fucking idea how to handle that, and a girl who has had all her ideals shattered but is still able to see the good inside that broken man.
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Post by sillierthings on Apr 17, 2015 22:44:42 GMT
I suspect this is true for many people who take issue with the relationship, and goodness knows, there are certain storylines or actors I will not watch for personal reasons. For example, I will not, I CANNOT, watch Andie MacDowell movies, no joke, because she looks like someone I HATE! I suppose I could analyze the films or her acting and try to explain it objectively, but it would be a lie. I just hate her because she looks like someone I'd like to see burn in firey hell. No excuses! LOL!
So, I get that, but you cannot project that dynamic on Sansa and Sandor. At first glance, without noticing the the finer touches (the "grace notes" I think GRRM likes to call them), it is a story of a big brute who works for Sansa's captors, treats her mean, pulls a knife on her and then makes a troubling confession to her little sister. However, those that see it only like that and those that say Sansa's memory of the Unkiss is her method of dealing with the trauma of the event are not reading the text with enough objectivity, imho. Also, like you point out in the other thread, Sansa knows trauma. Her dad's head was chopped off in front of her. She was stripped and beaten before the court. She was married to a man with no nose whose family killed her family. She's faced overt rape threats twice (riot and Marillion). Why is it Sandor getting rough and pinning her to the bed the ONE thing that is just too traumatic to deal with? It doesn't make sense to me.
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Post by katie on Apr 17, 2015 23:08:31 GMT
The only way the naysayers can justify it is by admitting to the one thing they never will: that Sansa has feelings for Sandor. If they came at it from THAT angle -- that the reason Sansa feels the need to romanticize the BoBW is because she is "in love" with Sandor and can't accept that he did that to her -- THEN we might actually have a meaningful argument.
And yet, it STILL doesn't hold water, because as I mentioned before, she doesn't romanticize other guys she's been "in love" with who turned out to be duds too, like Joffrey and Loras. Also, I don't think those feelings developed until AFTER he left KL anyway. She was interested in and drawn to him before, but the overt fantasies and romanticizing didn't start until after he was gone. (In fact, it might have been the BoBW incident itself -- or rather her post-incident reminiscings of it -- that "awakened" Sansa's feelings for him.)
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Post by sillierthings on Apr 18, 2015 0:01:11 GMT
Well said! I think your observation that Sansa doesn't develop true romantic feelings until he was gone is accurate. That old cliche, absence makes the heart grow fonder seems to be true here. I could see the moment between them and being something that awakened her emotionally and sexually--once she figured out why he was in her room, once she pieced together what he was offering her.
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Post by katie on Apr 18, 2015 0:24:06 GMT
And I think it's rather cool & interesting that Sandor will be much closer to her "romanticized" version of him after his stint on the QI. ;-)
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Post by eyesofmist on Apr 18, 2015 11:25:47 GMT
Going back to what I said about Harry and Aegon,what I was trying to say is that if what you suspect is going to happen in the show is true,then neiter Harry nor Aegon are going to be "endgame" for Sansa. If Petyr wants to keep Sansa as a maiden to marry her of afvantageousy, that will becomo impossible if she falls into Ramsay's grasp. That's why I say I'm sure Harry's character will be irrelevant in Sansa's arch,just a red herring and nothing more and that people who ship them are absolutely wrong.
Aegon is important for the plot but I think that those who ship him with Sansa will be proved wrong too and the show goes in the same direction. I guess they can't spoil parts of the "big plot",parts that affect the "ending",so having her abused by Ramsay would make it impossible for her to marry Aegon or somthing like that,so I deduce that she will not marry Aegon in the books either.
With other characters it doesn't matter much (as regards the big picture)if they disappear or something but Aegon has political importance or will probably have it, he will have somo impact on the big picture, so marrying Sansa to him would be important in that sense. That's what I was trying to explain,that I don't think Harry or Aegon will be relevant in Sansa's live as romantic interests and what's more,that Aegon and Sansa's strategical union will never take place in the books either because what they are doing in the show is going to make it impossible.
As for Sandor and Sansa,not even abuse or rape by Ramsay would stop Sandor loving her and he would want her anywhay,perhaps even more if she had been abused worse than she already has. He suffered severe abuse himself (although of a different sort)and he can empathise with her ordeal,whatever it is.
D&D can either keep SanSan story or not,this stupid and disgusting Ramsay addition would have no influence in Sandor's feelings for her.They can also delete their dynamics. For instance, in LOTR movies, Faramir and Eowyin's love story doesn't appear although it is important in the books. The big picture stands without their story and it may be the sense with SanSan. I'm quite sure they'll have their love story in the books (in my view, this story has already started) but it may be important for their individual arcs and not so much for the big plot. Somehow I'm convinced Sandor will be important for the big picture in some way and not only because he loves Sansa,but because of Bran's dream (the man with the hound helm and the man in golden armour) and because George went long lengths to have the Hound die and come back to life (a sort of resurrection). Not even the show runners had him die in the show,so I guess they couldn't for some reason. As they don't like Sansa at all,I guess there's something in the future plot that involves Sandor and it is important,so important that even those two can see it.
Regarding the nasty comments on tumblr,what I dislike is for them to say that other fans' post are some sort of rape apology,I find what they say insulting and not just wrong,I feel offended by that assuption because none of us condone any sort of rapey behaviour. What happens is that we don't think Sandor Clegane did anything of the sort,he never molested her or made her feel uncomfortable under his gaze (like Littlefinger and Tyrion did). These people may go on thinking whatever they like about the text but they have no right to say any of us romatithise rape or any bullshit of the sort. Littlefinger and Tyrion molested her and so did Joff but Sandor never did and never would,if he did I'd stop shipping them and also liking Sandor. Sexual abuse is something I don't take in any form.
What you may find it difficult to believe is that there are people who say Sandor is a "rapist" and had the intention to rape her but stopped when she sang the hymn,as if a rapist would stop at that) and then they ship Sansa with Tyrion,for instance,who has already raped prostitutes and who touched her breast when Sansa had been forced into that disgusting situation.
George himself wrote BoBW TV episode in such a way that there are not doubts Sandor is not a rapist and that he would never hurt Sansa,I don't know what further prove they need to understand that once and for all. It's not faulty reading comprehension in most cases, it's stubborn denial. Some of these readers are intelligent people and they insist on making assuptions that have no foundation at all and are downright wrong. They keep projecting personal views and wishes on the story instead of reading it as it was originally intended. Martin's view is quite clear if you just read it as it is and leave your prjudices apart. What will happen in the future can be debatable but what is already in the text is there for everyone to see if they are more careful readers and less biased.
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Post by eyesofmist on Apr 18, 2015 14:57:11 GMT
I also agree that Sansa and Sandor are rewriting their memories in a way,and that this is quite common in real life too. When you have some sort or romantic affair and this person goes away,when you remember what you had very often your memories are embellished to fit your wishes or your mental ideas and hopes. Everyting his better in restrospect but only if it was somewhat good or desirable in the first place. You may embellish an event but only if you look on it in positive or at least longing way.
Both Sandor and Sansa remember their story and skip the bad parts, they even make it better by adding what they whished had happened (the kiss,the love song,the girl thanking him after he saved her) and making it sound more romantic,more beautiful. She doesn't do this with Joff , Loras or Tyrion, only with Sandor. She relises that Loras doesn't want her and doesn't remember the rose incident,that Joff was a monster and that Tyrion was "kind" but she didn't want him. Noting to do with Sandor,she regrets not leaving with him when he offered and is a bit resentful because he went away and never came back. She longs for him and it's clear.
If you told anyone that you remember a man's kisses and feel bitter because he only left you his shirt or something like that before he disappeard from you life everybody would know that you have strong romantic feelings for that guy,if you also told them that you made up the kiss,that it never happen,this would make them feel even more sure that you want that guy and are very attracted to him.
The most simple interpretation,the first one you make on a insticutual level is usually right. When I read those memories about that kiss that didn't even happen I suspected for the fist time that Sansa wanted Sandor too. In her first version metion of the unkiss she says she kissed him,not the other way round and this in itself speaks volumes. Little Sansa Stark wishes she had kissed him,it's her desire we are witnessing when we read this,not his. She is the one who noticed he meant to kiss her although she was not completely sure of that. She was so scared that she decided to close her eyes and let it happen because she was not ready for that kiss then,but later,when he was gone and she didn't have to marry Joff,the Tyrells were there and she felt a bit safer,she desired she had kissed him and it is her choice,the fact that George words it like this is important "she kissed the Hound" in that first memory,she is wording out her wish.
Nobody wishes to kiss an abuser of hers unless they desire or love them. I know abused women desire their abusive partners but that's because they had a relatioship and Sansa had none with Sandor. Abused wives still desire and love their husbands despite everything and this is quite telling when we alnalyse Sansa's "unkiss" memory because anyway you read it this memory is saying she wanted the Hound. Abusive or not, she wants him,that's crystal clear for anyone to see. She doesn't remember or make up a kiss for Joff or Tyrion,not even from Loras,who never abuses or molested her. Why does she remember she kissed Sandor? Because SHE WANTS HIM. It can be said louder but not clearer. Not even trying to turn him into an abuser can you avoid the reality that she wants him.
This is one point,she wants him,whatever kind of man he is,but the second point is that he never abused her. He as mean to her,yes,but this doesnt't mean he was abusive. Women are losing perspective these days because the fact that a man arguess with you,even if he is mean to you doesn't make an abuser of him. You are on equal terms in that respect and you can argue back,tell him off or leave him for being an asshole but this is not abuse,that's something different. On the other hand,there are men who are "nice",they don't shout or lose their temper but are terribley abusive because they are controlling,demeaning and make a woman feel trapped and worthless. That's abuse,not shouting at you or arguing with you,or telling you that you are being stupid.
I'm not saying you have to put up with mean guys,you can tell them to get lost and never come back,but don't take this for abuse because they are different things.
The only thing Sandor did that is dangerous to her in my onpinion is drawing swords and daggers on her,not because he wanted to hurt her but because he scared her and made her felt threatened. Theatening her like that is awful and in our world could never be forgiven, or pehaps it could be forgiven but she should leave him if he was her partner. However, this is Martin language, I mean,that theme of the man drawing a dagger on the woman he desires has a different meaning in this author's world,it sybolizes "unfulfilled" sexual desire for Dunk (he never bangs the Red Widow,as far as we know)and also for Sandor.
The BoBW scene absolutely scary to me the first time I read it, I was afraid he could lose it completeley. George made an amazing job there because it really felt dangerous and incredibly tense,so dramatic that it could have been amazing on screen if it was well acted and written for the visual medium. But perhaps the casting wasn't right and the chracterization buildup was non existen,so Geroge couldn't write the scene he had imagined for the show. That episode,which is so powerful in the books,is not about an abusive older man lusting about a kid and wanting to rape her,it's about a big man-child (as you have said so well)with the emotional maturirity of an abused teenager in front of his first love and unable to handle the myriad of feelings that are burning his brains and lead to that vilonent reaction and those heartbreaking silent tears she could feel with her fingers. He never wanted to hurt her but has never known other emotional language than that of violence. He was brought up in a terrifying atmosphere and was trained in violent environment later,only valued for his fighting and killing abilities as an adult. I think he expressed himself in the only "language" he knew,his body language is wrong and scares most people, he scared Sansa but he didn't mean to scare her or hurt her in any way.
When reading,people must take into account the context, the world the story takes place in,and in that context,drawing a knife wasn't what it is now,killing was not the same either,as most men had to kill at some point in their lives, and some of them many times. They also should pay attention to Martin's language,as for him,a man drawing a knife on the woman he wants has a special meaning which doesn't include rape. In a real situation in our modern world this would be different but the same can be said for Arya and how she kills people,Tyrion and how he raped Tysha and the prostitute, had a singer killed and groped a twelve-year-old breast he married by force. I could go on an on about other characters,including Ned, who chopped a terrified man's head. This is a different universe and what happens there should be weighed and judged taking its particular rules into account.
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Post by sillierthings on Apr 18, 2015 15:36:43 GMT
You've summed this all up beautifully. This part especially stood out to me: If I'm remembering the text correctly, Sansa's first "kiss" fantasy is about Loras. Before she "remembers" kissing the Hound, she imagines what it would be like to like to lift his tunic and raise herself up on her toes to kiss Loras. I always liked this part of Sansa's narrative because it shows HER in the dominant position. In her first "erotic" fantasy that we are privy to, she's the one undressing and caressing the object of her desire. She's the one taking the kiss from Loras in her imagination. So, it's interesting to me when she first sees Loras when he comes to escort her, she compares him to the Hound--as different as a flower from a dog--which is an odd comparison, but not necessarily a negative to either man. Sansa likes flowers. Sansa likes dogs. . In addition, in Brienne's thoughts in AFFC when she is remembering her suitors could be applied to Sansa's situation as well: At any rate, I love that you point out that she first imagines that SHE kisses the Hound, not that he kisses her. Sansa is still very much in the dominant role in her fantasies. It's not until later that she puts the Hound in the role of the aggressor, taking the kiss. Why do you think this change occurs? Is it because she's losing her sexual agency--after Tyrion, Marillion and Petyr, is she losing her first healthy instincts about sexuality (where she was very much in charge) and falling back into a more passive role?
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Post by katie on Apr 18, 2015 16:42:10 GMT
I have this image in my head of Sansa and Sandor reuniting on the show after she has been abused to the same point as Jeyne has, and her "relationship" with Sandor springs out of this almost co-dependent need for physical contact, and they start an affair that she is more or less detached from, and their whole dynamic shifts to one where they are both just these damaged souls looking for comfort by any means possible, and it's all very unhealthy and uncomfortable. I can see D&D doing that to them. This way they can keep SanSan canon but also make it feel somehow "wrong" so that people have permission to openly hate it (like they already do). Ugh. But I am probably getting way ahead of myself, as usual. ;-) Yes, I feel like they would have just had him die on-screen and be done with it if they had no intention of bringing him back. We'd either see him die, or they would have had Arya give him the gift of mercy. Yes, that would be completely out of character for her, but this is D&D we're talking about... ;-P Also, RMC mentioned that they wouldn't let him keep the Hound helm after he left, and some people seem to think this is a clue that he will be back one day, but I don't see how considering Sandor was never even seen with the helm again after the first episode of Season 2. He sure as hell didn't have it with him when he was with Arya, and Rorge is dead, so that whole Saltpans thing likely won't come up either. I was just thinking last night that, when/if we should see him again on the show, he might look similar to how Lancel looks now -- hair cut very short, clean-shaven, wearing nothing than a modest robe/shift thing. CLEAN. That is if they keep the QI backstory... EXACTLY. If he wanted to rape her, he would have just DONE it. He snuck up behind her in the dark and grabbed her, he could have done it just then. But no, instead he just kinda hangs on to her arm and whines about how he's "lost". And then he tells her that he would keep her safe and kill anyone who tries to hurt her again. Does that honestly sound "rapey" to you? Exactly! He still could have made that scene violent and tense like in the books. It would have been slightly different because D&D had eliminated all the build-up to that moment, so GRRM had to salvage whatever he could. But the fact that he DIDN'T go that route at all makes it seem very clear to me that he never intended the scene in the book to be traumatic or rapey. TV always dumbs down stuff anyway, so this was probably GRRM's way of saying "Stop thinking this scene was supposed to be traumatic -- here, let me bring the subtext right up to the surface!" I also think he did it because, if Sandor HAD behaved the same way on the show as he did in the books, the audience would NEVER accept him as a possible future love interest for Sansa. Throwing her on the bed and putting a knife to her throat would have been too much of a deal-breaker for the viewers, and they would never forgive him. Just as even the most astute book-readers can't seem to forgive him. GRRM must have been well aware of that when he wrote that scene. And in Sansa's case, she is ABLE to do this BECAUSE he never actually hurt her. If he HAD harmed her in any way, and was STILL fantasizing about the UnKiss? Then yes, I would definitely start questioning her sanity and reasoning skills, LOL. But that's not what happened, and she is able to put it into a bigger context than ONE very exceptional moment when they were both under great duress. Yes, and haven't we ALL experienced that at some point? That missed opportunity where we were unsure at the time but later when reflecting upon it we think, "shoot! I should have kissed him [or whatever] when I had the chance!!" I think many of us can relate to that, so why are so many people giving Sansa such a hard time for doing it too?? Yes, and that is important to remember with Sansa and Sandor too. He ALLOWS her to sass him back. He says something shitty, she says something shitty, they are both equals in this dynamic. If he was "abusive", do you really think he would let her get away with that?? NO. In an abusive dynamic, one person is in control and has control over the other, and Sandor never has control over Sansa. She never FEELS controlled by him. In fact, she feels FREE to say whatever she likes to him. In many cases, she STAYS with him when she doesn't have to. Like on Maegor's rooftop. She could have left at any time, but she stayed and talked to him and asked him how he felt about things. If he was truly an abuser, and if she was truly frightened of him as she claimed, she would have left, like, immediately. Common sense, people!!! ^^^Beautifully put. The fact that she makes this comparison at all is PROOF POSITIVE that she considers Sandor a romantic prospect!!!! I think it has something to do with her final explicit memory of the kiss: "He took a song and a kiss and left me nothing but a bloody cloak." Her growing resentment toward him for leaving her is casting a slightly different tone onto the kiss. Though she never indicates that the kiss was unwelcome, she acknowledges that it was "taken", and then he just leaves. It's the classic "wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am" scenario, LOL. How can he KISS me and then just LEAVE?? She clearly believes that he got more out of their encounter than she did. Which begs the question: what more does she want from him???
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Post by eyesofmist on Apr 18, 2015 16:52:11 GMT
This is the quote you mentioned, sillier-things,but she thinks she is going to marry Loras and she tries to imagine what it would be like to stand on his toes and kiss him, but this is all we have, as she never creates a memory where she does kiss him,as he does with Sandor. This fantasy is also quite strange, because she thinks of him as pure and innocent. She says he is beautiful but also talks about his dimples,his sweet laugh,his smooth skin. What I mean is that it doesn't seem sensual,earthy or sexy. The person she imagines feels asexual and childish like an angel. And she never "remembers" that she did kiss whereas she imagines she kissed Sandor.
This is what happens when she realises she isn't going to marry Loras but Willas:
They fool starts singing the song of the Bear and the Mainden fair,and we have this sentence about Willas, but also about Sandor: He has never taken vows
The song says later that she wante a knight and not a bear. This is on purpose too,as if she wanted a knight,Loras, but she got willas, not a knight instead. But Willas is no bear,the Tyrells are no bears,Martin is "telling" the readers that Sansa will get a non knight and this will be another,not Willas.
This memory appears in the same scene as the other one about Loras,when she is with the Tyrells and the first one seems very innoncent and this one seems much sexier. Sansa thinks that Megga is too childish and she thinks that she is more mature as she has kissed a man,this man could have been Loras,so why Sandor? She could have fantasized about Loras but she fantasizes about Sandor instead.
And this is a give and take kiss, she remembers that she kissed him and that he kissed her. There is not doubt that in her imagination the kiss was wanted and given by both of them,it was a wanted kiss and the man in an embrace with her is the Hound. I was gobsmacked when I read it the first time as it was the first sign that she wanted him back. I also had to check that the kiss hadn't happened and it doesn't appear in the BoBW scene.
As for giving or receiving the kiss, I think it's 50% shared in this memorey but the first thing she says is that she as kissed him and this is important for me because it shows she wanted that. It's obvious that he wants that too but what about her? This extract shows that she wanted it too,otherwise she wouldn't remember how she kissed him.
Imagining a man kissing you doesn't mean you are submissive or something, I think,it's sexy to imagine a man kissing you passionately,I like men who make the firt move thought I also like it if it is the woman that does so. What matters is that both of them want it and this quote gives this impression. In her mind both of them wanted the kiss,both of the gave and took.
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